I'm going to be giving you tips on how you can support your wild woman or let your wild woman run free or however you want to picture that. I'm assuming now you've done some more research on the wild woman archetype and you've heard stories perhaps, or you've heard some myths and some tales, most likely leaning towards where wild equals bad.
What I want you to do if you haven't done this already is I want you to add to your reading list, always got a book for you on your reading list, Glennon Doyle Untamed. I want you to add Women Who Run with the Wolves by Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes, who we spoke about in the last module. This is all about the myths and the stories of the wild woman archetype.
Let's just dive into her a little bit more. We know during each menstrual cycle, we have these distinct and these powerful archetypes that each take their turn to appear and emerge. When the creative and the magnetic and the expansive and all those different phases of the cycles are coming to their natural close, a transition happens, the crossover. In order for our whole cycle to keep turning, we really must tune in and focus on the self in order for us to be to embrace who we are. At each point, that's why we pause before you go into a new season or a new phase. You can focus back on yourself. You're not disconnected from yourself when you have this creative magnetic expansive, this change.
The latter part of your cycle is where the wild woman lives. She lives in your luteal phase and she comes out after ovulation. This is really coinciding with obviously your premenstrual phase. Sometimes you may be dreading this part of your cycle because it can be painful, it can be emotional. It can obviously bring out some of the most darker or the most destructive sides of yourself or the shadow of yourself, should I say the shadow self. What I want you to know is, I want you to ask yourself is your wild woman talking to you through your PMS?
PMS, we know it's widely accepted, it's completely normalized that we must endure this every single month. But we know that it's completely outrageous and absurd to live this way. We know that it's completely unavoidable, sorry, completely avoidable. It’s completely avoidable. So I want you to take a step back. I want you to consider what it really means. What do you think that on average, one week or 14 days out of your life you're meant to deal with this? This pain, this suffering, this dread, the shame, this guilt, all of these emotions? Not for your benefit. What if you were to reframe all of these emotions, remember I was saying emotions are wisdom. Emotions are a good thing. What if these emotions and then the anxiety and the self-sabotage and the dark and the deep dwellings of the water or however you want to describe it, those destructive behaviors are actually the core of your wild woman. What if you were to look at that our needs and that discomfort and the pain that you're dealing with is actually a way of you resisting her?
Isn't it about time that we start listening to her? Because she's a powerful, powerful force. When I was taking you through the inner seasons and the superpowers, I said to you that she is the star of the show. She's the healer. She is the medicine woman. She's meant to be that. She is that untamed one. She won't rest until you let her be who she needs to be before the world told her who she needed to be because she's wild and she needs to be that way. She needs to be able to run first, sorry, she needs to be able to run. She needs to be able to run towards the discomfort. She needs to be able to have that wildness because she's intuitive and she senses when things are trying to tame her. But overall of the years and the years and the years of conditioning and programming, most women, actually all women, we've been censored limited. We have been told to be quiet, to be tamed.
I'm actually going to share a story right now from Glennon Doyle's book Untamed and she shares a story of this tiger called Tabitha. This right at the beginning of the books, I'm not spoiling anything for you. So Glennon and her daughter go to this sanctuary, this sanctuary park, where they've got wild animals, and they meet with Tabitha. Tabitha has been living in this sanctuary park for many, many years and the park owners are describing Tabitha as this calm tame tiger. Or is she a leopard? She might be a leopard. Actually. No, she's a cheetah. She's the cheetah. So they're describing her as this tame cheetah and there's a dog as well on the sanctuary park and she says that the dog and Tabitha are best friends because Tabitha just copies everything that the dog does.
So basically, they show us how Tabitha is tamed. They all sit down ready for this show with Tabitha and the dog comes out and one of the park rangers throws a dirty pink bunny. They throw this dirty pink bunny and the dog runs after the pink bunny and chases it. They tie this pink bunny to the back of a truck and the dog just chases it. Then Tabitha comes out now and she's like regal and you can just sense that she's just got this wildness about her and she just, comes onto the ground and they tie the dirty pink bunny to the back of the truck. She chases it. They're like, oh okay, Tabitha chases the dirty pink bunny just like the dog does.
Glennon's daughter says to her mom like does she like being here? Does she like being here? She's a wild animal. She said it out loud. One of the park workers said to her, oh no, this is all she knows. She understands that this, she doesn't miss the wild at all. Then everyone gets up, the show's over. Then they spot Tabitha, Glennon, and her daughter spot Tabitha out in the field. The field is obviously wired in and it's all caged off. It's not very big, but they spot her. She is literally formed into this new type of being she knows. She is crawling and pouncing around the perimeter of this park, like looking and yearning and knowing that she's not meant to be there. She senses that she has been tamed. Glennon's daughter turns to her and says to her look mommy, she knows that she's wild. She's found her wild again.
The reason why I'm telling that story, what I'm trying to say is that, just like Tabitha, you sense that you have this part of you that is wild that has been tamed, that has been censored, that has been limited that has been stifled, that has been subdued over and over and over again. Just like Tabitha, she went back into the wild, or she went back into that area where she was able to really just express herself and run free for a moment and be yes, I'm home. This is where I belong. I'm not meant to be chasing these dirty pink bunnies. Actually, the metaphor behind the dirty pink bunnies is we have been told to be quiet. Don't make too much noise, chase after this job, make sure you get married. Make sure you have a baby. Make sure that you get a mortgage like all of these dirty pink bunnies have been thrown in our faces for years and years and years. Really we know that we are needing to be taken up space. This wildness is returning within us every single month. We are subduing it, we are censoring it. We're moving away from our feelings. We're disconnecting with the truth that the wild woman tried to teach us to remember she's the medicine woman. She's the healer. She will continue creating disruption in your life if you don't let her be.
It's somewhere in you. She's coming through differently within all of us. There's no rhyme or reason behind it just like with Tabitha. There's no rhyme or reason. It's her intrinsic nature. Yes, the park ranger may have said to her oh, that's all she knows. That's just how she is she thinks that she's like the dog. No, she doesn't. She knows she's wild. She remembers. You have that deep remembering within you as well. The next time that you are going into this luteal phase, you're inner autumn, and you feel that you know her awakening within you. I want you to listen to what she has to tell you. I want you to notice how every single practice or every single moment that you are able to self nurture it for her. It's for her to emerge. It's not about you going buck wild and popping bottles and all of that. It's not about that. We're not reacting to anything. We're listening. Don't expect her to be a certain way. Don't try and fit into a circle when you're square. That's just not what it is. Let's just forget about that. Like I said in the previous training, I said, suffering and hustling is so 2019 and so is fitting in. Okay, let's just be done with that. Now.
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